Brace yourself, because I’m about to drop a fashionably large nugget of knowledge on you that just might blow your mind: Guys and girls are different. I know, I know. Shocking. In fact, they’re very different. Some of you quicker ones out there in the blogisphere have been quietly shouldering this suspicion since the fateful day you first saw a G.I. Joe & Barbie sitting side-by-side in a jumbled toy bin. That’s right–I said it.
But the diversity doesn’t halt with our shapes & sizes, but extends into the way we think, and act, and feel, and approach life & relationships. The Bible says even our sin tendencies are different. Its like there are these default sinful settings buried within each of us constantly looking for ways to derail God’s best for our lives. They can even feel normal, natural even, but they’re not Godly and ultimately con us into unwittingly cheating ourselves out of the things we’re most after–real love, strong relationships & a fulfilling life.
The apostle Paul in the book of Ephesians said it this way:
Ephesians 4:22-24 (NLV) – “22throw off your old sinful nature and your former way of life, which is corrupted by lust and deception. 23Instead, let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes. 24Put on your new nature, created to be like God—truly righteous and holy.”
And so, with that thought looming, we took the last couple weeks here in Radial to shuck the gloves and tell the plain gut-honest truth about the stupid ways we allow the default setting of “our old sinful nature” to call the shots and render us stupid. Here’s a recap of our reasons:
Reasons Guys are Stupid:
- Guys abandon chivalry & begin treating girls like just one of the guys.
- Guys overlook girls who aren’t as hot as what they think they deserve.
- Guys don’t know how to appropriately express their feelings.
- Guys don’t take the initiative to set & guard physical boundaries that protect a girl’s purity.
- Guys don’t invest much effort to understand & support a girl’s interests & priorities.
- Guys are afraid of making long-term commitments and keep an eye out for something new.
Reasons Girls are Stupid:
- Girls spend way too much time thinking and talking about guys.
- Girls attach themselves to wrong relationships to avoid feeling alone or undesirable.
- Girls hide who they really are to become who they think a guy wants them to be.
- Girls allow their emotions to overpower wisdom in relational situations.
- Girls attempt to manufacture security by becoming clingy and controlling in relationships.
- Girls put up with too much for too long before getting out of a bad relationship.
As teeth-clinchingly frustrating as it always is to see the unflinching truth about yourself laid out in front of you, realizing where we go wrong is often the first step into turning around and moving in the right direction.
To listen to my wife Gretchen & I unpack the above in hilarious, yet sobering detail, check out the radial podcast via iTunes.
I LOVE how it says on both things why guys are stupid that made my day ♥